Or maybe its just drinkers, or marriages in general.

But add mine to the casualty pile. Separated now (mostly) for two weeks now. Still under the same roof, and we have our daughter to figure out how to raise together. But still, the end draweth nigh.

Good thing I have my Jade-The Only Real Cloying and Obvious™ Absinthe-The Only Real Cloying and Obvious™ Absinthe-The Only Real Cloying and Obvious™ Absinthe Eddy and my Magical Wormwood.

Just a late night PSA from the snake.

Sorry to hear it, Snake.

Maybe this is a good time to put down the bottle and go have a conversation.
You married this woman for a reason. Try remembering what that was and put it into words. Spoken, written, whatever. Never give up without a good, honest fight.

Yes, what Abby said.

True dat.
I don't know anything about your relationship, but if alcohol is the #1 suspect, dump the bottle keep the girl. I'm sure there's more to it and separation can sometimes be a godsend. Good luck.
Remember,
Alcohol is for us schlubs that lost the girl and can't deal with the pain...

* an interesting note about your comment "what is it about this place". I seem to have started and ended more relationships since Opie began the site 3 years ago, than I did in the previous 15 years... Maybe it's the internet and maybe it's me trying to battle old age... or maybe it's the thujone.

Dear Abby,

What DS said in yell'er...

Sorry to hear about this Snake...

Sorry to hear Snake,
but what abby said is quite right,
beleive you me.

Yeah, she probably really likes to hear your voice Snake,
fuck the booze, try conversation.

Fight for her, Snake. The love that brought you together can break down all the crap that tares you apart. Do you remember the first time you knew you were in love with her, tell her about those feelings. Have her tell you about hers. Love is worth more than any other thing in the world.

Take care

...Words from the mouth of a true spirit from La Belle Epoche!

Cracks in the walls.

I have many cracks in my walls here.

I'll go through and patch them up as best as I can only to see the cracks reappear later. And so more maintenance is required... more spackle, more compound.

I'll paint over it.

In time those damn cracks resurface once again.

One day I said "to hell with it" and I tore out a 3 foot by 6 foot section and replaced it with drywall. "There" I said, "You sonuvabitch... no more cracks now!"

But you know.

I've got some cheap ass sheetrock where there was once solid but flawed cement and concrete.

I wish I never put in the sheetrock...

Sorry to hear about that Snake. Abby couldn't have put it better. You gotta communicate.

If you sincerely feel it's beyond the point where that effort would do any good though, end it and end it fast. I've seen too many people try to make doomed relationships work and it steals years from your life that you can't get back.

You'll figure it out. Keep us posted.

I hope you can work it out Snakehead.

It is at least worth a try. Sometimes one can. Other times one can't. But, if you don't try you will regret not doing so later.

Crack Prevention
Fixing Pre-Paint Plaster Problems


Planning on painting plaster walls? You'll want to inspect closely for cracks and fix them before laying on that fresh coat.



1. Start by digging out each crack with a utility knife, removing loose plaster.

2. Next, use the blade to cut the crack a little wider underneath the plaster than on the surface, creating an angled channel for drywall compound.

3. After wetting the channel with a rag or paintbrush, use a putty knife to smooth the compound into the crack, and then apply drywall joint tape.

4. Once it is dry, sand the area down to a smooth surface and paint away.

Damn... thanks Cros!

The part about the undercut made me wet.

I just fill the holes with plenty of caulk.

Define "plenty".

good luck, snake.

i'm sure you'll make the right decision.

learn from your(and our) mistakes and be a good man.

Thanks for all of the advice. I agree with all of it, and really have tried, things just have progressed beyond that. The issue isnt booze or drinking, thats just how I was dealing on Friday night. It appears that sometimes people just grow apart.

We still have a daughter to raise, and I expect we will still be friends years down the line. But whatever was there, appears to be gone.

Thanks again for all the well wishes. For me, for now, its time to concentrate on work, my daughter, and finding someone else to enjoy. The rest I can douse with booze as needed.

I'm truly sorry to hear that.

Sounds like the both of you are on decent terms, & that's good.

When my parents split, it was a big shit storm. 30 years later, still the same (they hate each other). It's not fun growing up in the middle of that.

Thats the main thing for us right now. Preserving our friendship and respect for each other, so our daughter can still have two parents. I think its something we can accomplish, we just no longer compliment each other as a couple. Love and hard work could probbably solve things between us, but I think neither of us wants to work on this for (potentially) the rest of our lives.

Funny how writing things down helps put them in perspective...

If you don't mind another thought from the peanut gallery of lurkers you don't know, it's going to be working on something for the rest of your life with whoever you're with next, too. We never find somebody we can coast forever with.

CG, you disappoint me.

I'll step in for him.

Snake, I hope you kept all those videos you made where you put the camera in the closet and put tape over the red record light so she couldn't see it. That will pay the legal bills.

If not, I hear the asking price for daughters in Mexico is pretty high these days.

Was that crass enough? I'm getting better at this being an asshole thing...

Now that's what I'm talking 'bout Porkster!

(You see, to make light of a terrible situation will sometimes have a soothing effect. And sometimes it will make you want to choke the shit out of the asshole that said something stupid. Either way somebody gets to enjoy something.)

Goddamn CG is slacking.

nobody wants the kinder, gentler CG.

you only like me when i spew vile hatred.

fuck you all.

you make me sick.

Vitriol makes me wet.

I'm really sorry to hear that Snake,
can I have her phone number?

BUHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

i love kirk

Sure. But I warn ya, she is high maintenance....

does she like handmade jewelry?

More of a tiffany's kind of girl. Although I know she designed a piece or two in her day.

Oh yeah, she dosn't drink, and cant stand the smell of absinthe.

Tiffany's?
Damn. Nevermind but tell her
I could make her a spoon ring with a patchouly oil compartment,
and for a social life she could hang out at the Dollar Store or the laundromat.

What?!

Enough!

actually, my wife rarely drinks and thinks that absinthe smells & tastes like nyquil.

and for some reason, she STILL won't drink it

Snake,

I'm sorry. If there is anything I can de, just let me know. I'm always good for a drink or to just lend an ear.

True.